It was the lake for me…

…that’s when I knew.

We were on date #2 and something in my spirit was telling me “This is it.  He’s the one.” 

My date (who’s now my boyfriend) took me to one of his favorite hangout spots.  We sat on a rocking bench that faced the lake, and we talked.  It was dark outside so I really couldn’t see the lake that well, but it was so peaceful.  Something about sitting Infront of the water brings me peace and calms my nervous system.  He knew I’d be cold sitting in front of the lake, so he brought one of his hoodies for me to wear.  I brought one of my conversation card games and we both took turns asking each other questions.

Some of the questions got pretty deep and I told him he didn’t have to answer them if he didn’t wanted to, but he did.  He was extremely transparent and honest which made me feel special and comfortable.  There were a couple things going on in my mind, some questions I wanted to ask but didn’t know how to ask and didn’t know when to ask.  I thought to myself, well since he’s being very open and transparent with me, it wouldn’t be fair for me to be closed off and guarded.  So, I asked him.  The question I was dreading to ask.  “Listen, I have 2 boys that are very, very busy.  Are you okay with that?”  I didn’t know what he would say since he didn’t have kids.  We’ve been knowing each other for a very long time and although 15 years went by where we didn’t see each other, we kept in contact  with one another on social media.  So, obviously he knew I had kids.  “I’m totally fine with that.  That doesn’t bother me.  I have 4 nephews, 2 of which I helped raise.  I coach 8th grade boys’ basketball and football teams.  Anytime people tell me I don’t have kids I correct them right away.  I may not have biological kids but my nephews and my student athletes, those are my kids.”  His response warmed my heart and automatically eased the worries I had at that time.

After he dropped me off at home, as I was putting the roses he got me in a vase, I reminisced on the night we shared.  It was great.  He texted me when he got home, and he basically told me this was it for him.  He didn’t want to date any other people.  He wanted to focus on getting to know me.  And I wanted to focus on getting to know him.  I didn’t know how far this could go, but I was just happy I found someone who felt the same way about me that I felt about him.

I was happy we both felt the same way about each other at the exact same time.

Thank you God.